Admit that all along you have been creating your own pain through your own thinking. Don’t worry; almost everyone else is doing the same thing. Nows the time to change.
pray about it. your mood swings, your temper, your ego, your insecurities, your mindset, your self-love, your emotional state, your environment, your relationships, your lack of motivation, your lack of execution, your attraction to bad people. give God every piece of you and every vessel. pray about it all. power of prayer is indescribable.
being uncomfortable becomes easier when you realize that’s literally the point. it’s like working out. if you work out & it becomes easy for you, you already got all you could out of that workout. your body adjusted & is strong enough to handle it now. you’re not improving anymore. that’s why you up the ante with harder workouts, where you’re uncomfortable & not quite strong enough yet. bc eventually you will be strong enough. but if it’s not a challenge, there’s no gain. & that’s exactly how it is with situations out of your comfort zone. the more you put yourself in them, the easier they get—but that in-between phase where you’re struggling is still completely valid and ok and natural. it’s what’s supposed to happen. it’s what’s going to change you as a person. and you should keep doing it
Some tags I found in notes that I feel are a very, very important caveat
OP is suggesting you spend some amount of time in the learning zone rather than staying in the comfort zone all the time. This is how you make your comfort zone grow, which will make life more comfortable for you!
But if you go too far from your comfort zone, you enter the panic zone. At that point, you will stop learning because your brain will be overloaded with The Feelings.
It is important to note that you cannot “push through” the panic zone. There is nothing on the other side of the panic zone except more panic.
Learn the skill of delaying your response when faced with someone who is intentionally trying to provoke you. Refuse to let others dictate your mood. Take charge of your emotions. You decide when, how, and whether you want to to react. You control yourself, no one else does.
If you can’t control yourself. You will be easily controlled.
“Relax wild one. It’s not your job to be everything everyone needs, and you don’t have to be impressive to be loved. Stop trying so hard. Just show up … and be real with the world. That is enough.”
